RESPECT COUNSELING CENTER WELCOMES YOU
Respect Counseling Center is a warm, inviting, safe place for self-reflection. Every client who comes to our center has their own unique story and reason for entering through our doors. It is a place where you will discover new perspectives, find a deeper understanding of yourself, and learn new tools to better cope with current and future issues. It's a place where you will grow and heal. Knowing how urgently you may want to be seen, we designed our websites to give you the opportunity to schedule a telehealth appointment today, with Blu Wilkins. We look forward to being a part of this journey with you.
My compassion and dedication to every client's therapeutic process shines through my work. I honor every client's individual values, perspectives, and goals and will embrace your uniqueness with open arms. I understand on a personal level, having gone into therapy to overcome many battles myself, that working on oneself is not always easy. You must be brave, motivated to heal, and have the strength and self-awareness to seek help. If you have the strength to take these steps, you have the strength within yourself to address your issues and heal your struggles. With dedication, strength, and guidance you will find your healing path.
I work with individuals on issues that include: Relationship issues, Anxiety and Fears, Panic Attacks, Depression, Self Esteem, Self-Harming, Sexual Abuse, Parenting, Family Conflict, Loss and grief, Stages of life Changes, Divorce, Anger Management, Behavioral Issues, Trauma and PTSD, Obsessive Compulsive (OCD) and more.
I conduct my couples sessions in a structured, step by step process that is researched based to cause long lasting change. In session, couples uncover the patterns they entered the relationship with and how that has helped them or hindered them. They each learn about their triggers, how to communicate more effectively when they do get triggered in the future, and how to heal these triggers. They will each learn new ways of connecting with their partner, allowing for a more meaningful connection. Through our journey together, I will guide you both towards a kinder, deeper, more loving connection.
I help couples with issues such as: Infidelity, Forgiveness, Loss of Connection, Communication Issues, Control, Disconnect, Loss in Income, Inequality, Sexual Frustration, and more. I enjoy helping couples find new ways of relating to each other, determining where the glitches in their communication patterns are, finding forgiveness for past hurt, breaking down walls they’ve put up, finding compassion for one another, and ultimately helping couples reconnect after years of disconnect.
Family therapy is often an important addition to any child’s individual therapy. When children are brought in for individual counseling for behaviors such as acting out, aggression, bed wetting, disruptive behaviors in school, lying, bullying and so on, I will ask the parents to be involved in roughly a third of the sessions. Often it is not possible for all family members to attend these sessions. I am understanding that scheduling an entire family to be in one place at one time is often an impossible task. If that is the case I will continue working with the parties that can attend. Ultimately I will ask what each family is most comfortable with and will work in a way that feels right for them.
Throughout the last eighteen years I have worked with a vast range of diagnoses, which has given me a wide spectrum of understanding and experience. The outcome of this is finely illustrated in my work with my clients today.
My extensive work as a therapist began in Santa Barbara, where I worked at The Community Counseling Center. There I was given the opportunity to work with Children, Teens, and Adults from all walks of life. I worked closely with children suffering from Attachment Disorders, ADD, ADHD, Conduct Disorder, and Oppositional Defiant Disorder. Educating parents during family sessions was a large piece of my work with children. I also worked with teens struggling from Eating Disorders, Abuse Issues, Social Phobias, as well as many of the common disorders affecting adults. These disorders include: Major Depressive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Dependent Personality Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Divorce and Bereavement.
During my two years at the Community Counseling Center I also ran a support group at the Santa Barbara Boys and Girls Club. At the Boys and Girls Club I worked with low-income families from a variety of ethnic backgrounds suffering in many ways. These families often had domestic violence issues going on in the home, which lead to acting out behaviors in the children that I worked closely with.
After two years of working at The Boys and Girls Club and at The Community Counseling Center, I transitioned into working with Mentally Ill clients at Sanctuary Psychiatric Centers of Santa Barbara. While at Sanctuary I became very skilled in working with patients suffering from debilitating mental illnesses. These mental illnesses consisted of Bipolar 1 and 11, PTSD, Delusional Disorder, Schizoaffective Disorder, Schizophrenia, Borderline Personality Disorder, Paranoid Schizophrenia, and several others. Ninety percent of the patients at Sanctuary were also dually diagnosed, which meant that patient’s treatment plans focused heavily on their relapse prevention plans.
After working at Sanctuary for three and a half years I moved on to a new population in hopes to continue my growth as a therapist. My new focus became working directly with teenagers in gangs and gang families in Los Angeles as well as with foster kids who had found themselves in the Juvenile Justice System. I worked closely with these teens, meeting with them on a daily basis. I helped them learn new coping skills, I taught them communication skills, I helped each teen find a healthy release for their anger, I helped them understand generational patterns, I prepared them for the obstacles that they were likely to encounter when returning home, and I helped them to set goals for their future. I worked with this population for two years before finally moving back home to Wisconsin, to be close to my own family.
Shortly after my permanent return to Wisconsin, I was given a position as a therapist at the Oshkosh Counseling Wellness Center. Through my new professional connections in Oshkosh, I was also invited to write for the Oshkosh SCENE newspaper. I had a monthly column, titled “Take Care,” that reached a regular audience of 15,000+ per month. With the increased community recognition, I have been invited to speak at a variety of local events with many organizations such as: The University of Wisconsin, Oshkosh, the Boys and Girls Club, and various other Diversity and Women’s Events.
As my personal experience and professional paths expanded, I outgrew the confines and outdated practices of conventional therapy offices. In July of 2012, I branched out and opened the doors to Respect Counseling Center, LLC in downtown Oshkosh, where I utilize new technology, research and expertise. As I moved to my new location, I was dedicated to creating a warm, inviting and comfortable atmosphere.
In 2021, I moved my practice, and began focusing on providing telehealth to my clients. This has allowed my clients to continue therapy safely, during a national pandemic. After realizing the increased need for Mental Health care in our area, I became focused on providing clients with the ability to make online appointments immediately. I am proud to say that I am one of the only local providers, that allows you to make an appointment the same day you begin searching for a provider. Just click on a service below, pay for you first session, and schedule your telehealth appointment with Blu Wilkins today.
My education is also worth noting, as I attended two very respected and innovative research Universities in psychology and social science. I received my B.A at the New School for Social Research in New York City, a prominent school in the most diverse city, increasing my cultural awareness first hand, in a way I would have never been exposed to in Wisconsin. As a student at the New School I was accepted into their Art Therapy program, a two-year program that focused solely on finding self-expression through creative processes. Through this program I perfected ways of using modalities such as music, sound, imagery, role, movement, and creative arts. Using the creative arts in therapy with clients has helped me to tap into their expressive aspect of the mind, body, and spirit promoting self-actualization and healing. The wealth of knowledge and understanding I absorbed at the New School has played a pivotal role in my work with my clients and provides a wonderful base for my additional studies and master’s focus.
After graduating from the New School I moved to Santa Barbara California to attend Antioch University’s specialty-focused Marriage and Family Therapy program. Antioch utilizes a very unique approach to teaching students how to become the best Marriage and Family Therapists possible. With every lesson taught, the students were asked to show their understanding of each concept through writing essays about how a therapist would apply this if they were working with our own families. This approach caused every one of us to completely analyze our individual upbringing, our family patterns, traditions, and unspoken rules, from every possible angle. Going along with that same approach of self-discovery before one attempts to help others, Antioch also required their students to be in their own personal therapy. Having gone through self-analysis through this program, I uniquely understand both sides of therapy and how and when to apply the many therapy models. The innovative and hands-on program at Antioch helps me relate to my clients and sets me apart from conventional therapists. This training has given me the ability to stay entirely focused on the client’s issues.
MASTER’S IN CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGY, 2005 Antioch University, Santa Barbara, CA Major – Clinical Psychology Educational Emphasis in MFT – Marriage and Family Therapy
BACHELOR OF ARTS IN PSYCHOLOGY, 2003 The New School for Social Research, New York, NY Major - Psychology, Educational Emphasis in Art Therapy
ADDITIONAL WORKSHOPS, TRAININGS AND SEMINARS: Structural Family Therapy, Eating disorders, Using Metaphor, Crisis Intervention, Patient Rights, Recovery Through Social Skills, Sand Tray, and the use of Counter Transference.